Thursday, March 3, 2011
How Often Do You Think About Sex In A Day? Is There A Normal?
So I started to do a little bit of research and guess what - every article I found pretty much says something different on how often men vs women think about sex on a daily basis. Maybe there is no standard (aka "normal"). There is an old wife's tale that says men think about sex every 7 seconds. That's kind of hard to believe considering they would not be able to function adequately in any capacity if they thought about sex so frequently. Imagine being in a meeting with a room full of men and they keep spacing out every 7 seconds? That would be productive... not.
Here's a video from askmen.com where they posed the question to a bunch of guys:
In an article from Netscape Men, they quote a scientific study that says that 54% of men think about sex several times a day compared to 19% of women. I can't imagine how distracting this would be. I would say the only time sex crosses my mind is once the kids are in bed - and then the thought can often be easily dismissed due to fatigue or a good show on TV. Hey, I'm just being honest. And that's the reason Date Night is such a huge success in our house - because I don't have to decide - I know it's going to happen.
So why do men think about sex with much more frequency than women? According to some studies (like one I found on WebMD), it's because men not only have a higher sex drive, but it's also more straightforward. Our female libidos are apparently much more influenced by environment and context. Men, are you listening? Maybe you could up the frequency if you set the mood for your woman more often... you know, make sure the dishes are done, the kids are put to sleep, lunches are made for the next day. Ah, romance takes on a whole new context in married life - and you thought I was going to say light the candles and pour the wine. Anyway, all joking aside, just ask your wife/partner what would put her in the mood. Now there's a novel idea! My husband knows all it takes is a good massage. And I guess now you do too!