Personally speaking, I paid attention to what people were saying but not whole-heartedly. I had waited a long time to become a mom (I was 36) and so all of those things I would easily give up for a baby and the chance to be a mom. They seemed inconsequential (and often still do). With Mother's Day fast approaching, I started to think about how I've changed in the last 6 1/2 years and what I miss most about my previous "self". I would obviously not change a thing about my present life as a mom, but you don't stop being you and so it's completely expected that looking back, there will be things you will miss.
Here are some of the things I came up with (in no particular order)...
- a day spent leisurely and aimlessly shopping with friends... and spending money on frivolous things just for me
- my completely flat stomach
- going to the toilet in privacy (that includes taking a shower)
- traveling without a million bags, extra changes of clothes, toys, etc.
- watching what I want to watch on TV
- seeing all of the latest movies in the theatre, instead of on video
- getting only myself ready in the morning
- taking a "time out" - you never just get to turn off as a mom
- my things were "my things"
- talking on the phone without interruptions
- saying bad words without fear of imitation by small humans
- eating a meal without getting up 10 times (especially to wipe a butt)
- having a clean car without crumbs and sticky stuff
- a third glass of wine which would actually make me tipsy (any more than 2 and I feel it the next day, even if it doesn't make me tipsy - that sucks!)
- being sick without having to get up and take care of anyone else
- exercising for more than 20 minutes, especially taking long walks
- just being alone
It's moments like these that make me realize how much I have changed in the last 61/2 years. I may miss glimpses of my old life but those things will come again one day. In the meantime, I have gained more than I ever thought possible which has made me a much better version of myself. I can't express how blessed I feel that I have the privilege of being their mother. I may worry that I don't always do the job perfectly, but I will always try my best. There's no better job in the world...